Monday, October 13, 2014

Online Dating: Episode 1

I've delved into the realm of online dating twice before.

The first time I paid for eHarmony, had a weird experience where I saw a guy I was just starting to talk to in the tunnels at work in the Magic Kingdom and totally wasn't prepared for said meeting so I panicked and cancelled my membership and got a refund.

The second time I didn't want to pay for the service so I decided to try OkCupid.  I got some completely disgusting messages (one guy told me he would pay all my bills if I let him watch me use the restroom, and I'm just not talking about going pee here people. blegh) and another said something so disgusting that I can't even re-type it because this blog is rated PG.  I did go on one date, but the guy ended up being about a foot shorter than me and wouldn't answer the waitresses question when she asked if it was going to be one check or two.  So that was the end my stint on that lovely site.


Fast forward to last month.  I told myself that once I had settled in Houston I would try my hand at online dating one more time.  Last year (and all the years) I lived in Florida were a complete bust in the romance department, and I cannot tell you how ready I am to be in a relationship.

Enter Match.com.


I wanted to try a site that I hadn't tried yet, so I signed up for a 3 month subscription.

I immediately got a few likes, winks, and even messages.  But I told myself I needed to take an active role in this (especially if I was paying for it).  So I started browsing through profiles and started messaging a few guys I thought had potential.  There was one guy who was super attractive, so I messaged him, but didn't hear anything back.

I started seriously messaging another guy, who went to Texas State as well.  We messaged for about 2 weeks and then he asked for my number so we started texting.  We then moved on to the Facebook stage and that is where things fell off.  After he looked at my Facbeook page he completely stopped communicating with me.  No clue why.  Maybe he saw something he hated or was turned off by, who knows.


So then I found this guy who I thought had major potential.  I messaged him first.  I commented on a picture he had posted of him on a mountain skiing.  It was am amazing picture.  We hit it off pretty well, he liked my profile and a few of my pictures.  We messaged back and forth for about 2 and half weeks, then we exchanged phone numbers, and finally he asked me if I wanted to meet up for drinks.

I was pretty nervous but said yes.  Drinks ended up becoming dinner and a trip to Houston's comedy club to see Damon Waynes.  I had mentioned how badly I wanted to see a show at this Improv club I kept seeing and so he got us tickets.  I was beyond excited.  I mean this was my first actual date in forever!


We went on Saturday night and met at the restaurant, because hello, I was not about to let him pick my up at home.  I wish I could say I had a picture of my outfit and hair/makeup but I was too nervous to snap any pictures.  But my roommate said I looked perfect.  So I left the house feeling pretty confident, in my appearance at least.

I got to the restaurant first, we decided on a sushi place pretty close to the club.  When I saw him I was really pleased.  He was much cuter in person than in his pictures.  Now I'm not going to go into all the little details of the date, but it was fun.  Like really fun.  I had a fantastic time.  The flow of conversation was perfect and we never had any awkward pauses.  We laughed and overall had a great time.  Even the show was great.


At the end of the evening I told him I had a fantastic time, he said he did too, and we both said we'd love to do it again sometime soon.  I drove home feeling really good and excited.

And I haven't heard from him since.


Bet you weren't expecting that.  I sure wasn't.  I thought we had had a great time.  Obviously he did not.  I went ahead and bit the bullet and texted him once, last Monday.  But I got a one sentence response and nothing after that.

Not gonna lie, it sucked.  It still sucks.  Now I know it was just one date, with one guy.  And I know we weren't going to get married and live happily ever after.  But it would have been nice to get at least an explanation as to why he didn't feel the need to text me again or why we wouldn't be going on another date.


I guess he just wasn't that into me.

So it's on to the next one.  Sadly there hasn't been a next one yet.  I kinda lost my enthusiasm for the search last week. But I'm gonna jump back into it with fresh eyes this week.  I need to keep reminding myself that I just started this journey and it's not gonna happen overnight.

 I just need to be patient.


The pictures I've got throughout the post are the ones I have posted to my profile! What do you think? 

4 comments:

Jenn said...

hang in there--the online dating world can be a daunting one, and you'll encounter people who turn cowardly in an instant. But, there ARE good people out there who are looking for the right thing. That's where I met my husband, after weeding through a lot of other people. It takes time, like anything else so try not to get discouraged (even though I know that's easier said than done)

Meg Cady said...

I am just so proud of you and your willingness to try online dating!!

GO YOU!

Be on the look out for a text this week! Any weekend plans?

PS. I would have texted you back ;)

Katie @ A Beautiful Little Adventure.com said...

Dating is so hard. No matter what. Stay brave and bold and be you. That's all my advice :) but I dated online for about a year, met a bunch of true jerks, had a few guys fall off the face of the planet and then finally, finally met my husband. Stay hopeful!

Him & Me (But Mostly Me) said...

I think the pictures are great! You have to keep trying one place or another. I did match, eharmony, okcupid, plentyoffish, and craigslist. I liked craigslist the best and that's where I found my husband. Good luck!