Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Relationship Status


So I don't really talk about my relationship status on the blog.  Mostly because my relationship status is currently (and has been for many, many years) S-I-N-G-L-E!

There are two reasons for this.

1. Working for Disney allows you to encounter two types of men.  Either gay men or married men.  Neither of which is appealing to me in the slightest.  Then again the men that aren't gay or married are, for lack of a better word, man whores.  Which unfortunately is not what I'm looking for either.  Especially since I've entered my mid-20s.  I'm looking for something less........temporary?

2. I'm picky.  I fully admit that.  I know what I want and if I don't find it in a guy then I move on.  I'm  also comfortable being single.  I would even go far as to say I'm good at it. Plus, I see this video and I just nod along with it because this is all shit that I say.

But now I'm 25.  I'm officially half way to 50 and 5 years away from 30.  I'm ready to find that special someone.  (As cliche as that sounds).  But seriously, I'm ready!
So how does one who is surrounded by married and gay men start dating.  You try online dating.
Dun Dun Dun.
Yes, I have created a profile with an online dating website (its free one) and have started talking to men between the ages 25-30.  So far I've gotten lots of responses.  But have replied to only a handful (remember, Miss Picky over here).  There are the pictures I have posted on the site:


And I've actually already been on my first date!  Which is a huge deal for me y'all.  I was very safe about the whole thing.  We went to a public place, a sushi restaurant that I chose and I let all my close friends know when I left and when it was over.  We had talked for about 3 weeks or so before I actually agreed to meet in person. So first off, he was shorter then me by about a head.  Which I'm just not that comfortable with.  I just prefer taller guys.  It was never awkward per say, we had a pretty steady flow of conversation but it wasn't anything super exciting either.  And I'm using the word date, but I paid for myself so it wasn't really a date.  It also last exactly one hour.  We met there at 6:30 and by 7:30 I was in my car on my way home.  
Overall, it went ok.  But I didn't leave with butterflies in my stomach nor did I leave looking forward to the next time we would meet. But I did leave feeling very proud of myself for stepping out of my comfort zone and actually going on the date.  I called Suzanne afterward and she said the same thing.  
So, I'm going to keep going with the online dating thing.  See how it plays out!  Who knows, I may be super successful or I may fall flat on my face.  It'll be fun either way and y'all will definitely get all the details! :)

10 comments:

Jenn said...

Online dating can be incredibly interesting. Either in a good way or a bad way, and sometimes both haha. I did my fair share of it, and had two long terms relationships develop from it (the one I'm currently in, one of them).
My only advice to you about the free sites, especially at 25, is that a lot of guys around that age, until they are closer to 30, are just on those sites for one thing. If you go to a paid one, at least there is some other motivating factor there (since they have to pay). You still have to be picky on those sites too (cuz there are creepers everywhere), but that is my one piece of advice. I've heard more "bad" stories from the free sites than I have from the paid sites.
I hope the online dating world treats you well!!

Jessica @ Lovely Little Things said...

The pictures you posted are HOTTTTT...good job!
I'm excited for you. One of my good friends from work has tried online dating and he loves it...he's 24 I think?

ANNNND literally CRIED watching that video hahaha

LOVE!
:)

Courtney said...

My good friend net her boyfriend through online dating & they are soon to be engaged. =)

You posted great pics of yourself - you look gorg!

Aaaaaaannnddd I totally know what you mean about the guys at Disney. Having worked there I can totally relate to that haha.

Leah said...

Aww I have 2 no three comments/suggestions/ideas!!!

1- You MUST Buy Patti Stanger's matchmaker book. the title is something about finding a millionaire but the content is fabulous! I went from being a divorced single mom one moment, i read the book and bam! I have been with my boyfriend for the past 2 yrs! Seriously this book is worth a million $'s for real!

2- do you know/follow Sar? She is amazing and has found love online... to a cutie and they are both so smart and funny. I just love her and she's started a series on her blog about online dating! It's amazingly helpful http://www.lifeofloveblog.com/2013/03/intermet-choosing-best-online-dating.html

3- ok this is not related, but check out my post today on www.lovelylifeofleah.com because I'm going to disney!!! But for a conference :( i'll be in a wdw resort, and am looking into the after 4pm conference pass. i figure if i schedule the magic hours right, it could be worth it. what do you think?

Ashley Wright said...

1. Uhm, hello, why didn't I receive a call?!?!?!?!

2. He was short because you need to be with Mr. Wright 2.0. (Sister in-laws... duhh)

3. Fate.

4. Let's make this shit happen. (He graduates in December and aint stayin in Cali!)

Ashley said...

Good for you stepping out of your comfort zone!!! Major props!!! It's hard enough to just go out on a date, but going on one with a guy you met online can make anyone extra nervous. So glad you were able to do something out of your comfort zone. Definitely wishing you best of luck, seems like you know what you're looking for :) Keep us all updated!

Meg Cady said...

WHAT WHATTTTTT
(I bet you were excited to read Jess' post today... and then were let down by the fact it was about me)

HOW EXCITING! I am so proud of you for going... I dont know if I would have the guts! YAY YOU!

Leanne @ Simply Beautiful said...

This is super exciting and super interesting to me! I often wonder if I had not gotten married when I did or met my husband the way I did, if I would try one of these dating sites. But more power to you for branching out! That definitely takes some courage...Way to go! Can't wait to hear more of these online dating chronicles ;)

Shelley said...

You look adorable! Good luck with the dating scene!

Meagan Nixdorf said...

It's awesome that you're stepping outside your comfort zone. In your case, when you're surrounded by gay guys, married guys, and 4 years olds chasing Buzz Lightyear...you gotta do what you gotta do. :) I'm glad you've got an open mind about online dating. I'm not looking to date anytime soon, but I feel like online dating might be something I'd be comfortable with.

And the Shit Single Girls Say...hilarious!!!